When Scott used to travel 75 percent of the time, we would call the period when he would come back from a trip “re-entry.” There was a little bit of maneuvering and compromising we both had to do, in order to come back together as a family unit.
We’ve had a different kind of “re-entry” since getting back together after being apart for three years. We’ve both grown a lot and feel so grateful to be where we are and we’re now marveling at the times we surprise each other, even after having known one another for 21 years.
On our way to Vegas this last weekend for a work event, we played a little game. Scott thought of it. We named 27 things we loved about one another. Why 27, I don’t know, but it was a fun number to pick. By the end of the weekend, as we just went through daily life, the list grew to 38 or so. I think we surprised each other with things we shared having been through everything we have endured together and apart.
I teared up when he said “I love your compassion for people you don’t know.” I didn’t realize that this was so important to me, nor did I realize the toll the last three years had on me having gone through feeling like I was doing something wrong when it came to helping others.
I shared with him how much I love his high level of emotional maturity and his huge heart, as well. He's one of a kind, truly.
We have moments like this, too…
Scott: “Was wondering about hitting the Hoover Dam on the way home.”
Me: “Um….I’ve been there but will go if you want to.”
Me: “Let’s go check out “x” place in Phoenix!”
Scott: “Um….I was there with so and so when I was dating her.”
Scott: “If I die while flying from Flagstaff to Phoenix with Paul, did I tell you we have a million-dollar life insurance policy.”
Me: “Wait, what?”
It’s like we’re rediscovering each other even though there’s a deep soul love and knowing underneath all of it.
Re-entry used to be thought of as kind of a tough thing because we were finding our groove again but now, it feels like a fun surprise.
I’m thinking we call the NEW re-entry, “So, funny you mention that, ….”