For The Record: Here's The Real (Legal) Deal

I'm geting right to it. This happened.  I saw it.  Many other people who love me saw it and alerted me to it....
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I wasn't surprised, sadly.  It's part of the deal when you speak out about narcissistic/emotional/verbal abuse. You get painted as the abuser/user. 

So here's what's going to happen in this blog. I'm posting the public records for the restraining order I was granted, which consists of the proof (including a domestic violence report by Flagstaff PD) behind why I was granted the order of protection and the affidavit showing him being served the order.  He denied his idenity and threw the envelope on the ground, and drove off. 

I'm also going to start with explaining what TRUE stalking looks like.  And what you're not seeing in his post. 

STALKING
I'm not the smartest woman in the world but I am smart enough to protect myself, and do what it takes to protect myself. I'm also smart enough to know NOT to go to his blog because I know his love of analytics. With that said, I have seen blog posts which paint the untrue story he wants to tell but it's been a long time. I just don't go there. Now, because of the restraining order and what he did to defame me at my place of work (Northern Arizona University), everyone from the President to the NAU PD and the Office of Equity and Access know all about him. In fact, the whole IT department knows and has blocked his email address.  Truthfully, 9 views over an unsaid period of time from one address seems really low to me. Is it a year? Is it a day? He doesn't say. 

​Here's what real stalking looks like via my Google analytics from January 2018-May 7, 2018:

Glenolden just happens to be where his step sister, Kim, lives, which is just minutes from where he was living with his ex and kids in Morton and Springfield.  When I dive deeper into the records, the person looking at my blog 87 times is looking at multiple pages during the wee hours of the night.  The same ones, over and over again.  I'm no Columbo, but I don't know who else would be this obessed with reading what I have to say.

When you speak up, you expect this type of behavior, especially from a man who has repeatedly conned many in his lifetime.  The reality is fighting abuse and standing up against it looks like the public records I've shared below.

For some context, I was granted an order of protection from the Flagstaff Justice Court in August of last year based on the fact he wrote to the president and about 80 others at the university where I work in an effort to get me fired for publicly speaking about our past relationship on my personal blog. (It backfired—they (and my cop friends) saw it as aggravated harrassment and recommended I get a restraining order.) In addition, he posted my blog all over various NAU Facebook pages under his now deleted page called Question Mark on the same day. He also threatened me that he will never stop until he gets justice. The judge also read the domestic violence report from Flagstaff PD where I found out that the maintenance man in the complex called the police after hearing him yelling at me, and hearing me crying. According to the apartment complex, they received multiple complaints during his time with me. This is not something that has EVER been in my life prior to or after Robert. Also, I am not the only woman in his life who has gotten the police involved.  His ex called the cops on him because he was screaming at her, among other things. I'm sure it's on record in Springfield.

Here's the real REALITY: 
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It doesn't stop there.  He's tried repeatedly to covertly harrass me, including using fake Facebook profiles by the name of Scott Tullman and Karen Marie.  This technically violates the restraining order meaning he should be in jail. I'm working on this with Facebook--sadly, it's not easy to track down IP info thorugh Facebook, even with a restraining order. His friend/client, Kimberly, is  apparently in on this, too, but she has denied knowing who Scott and Karen are even though they supposedly used her photography services and left reviews on Facebook.  Kimberly has reviewed Robert's services on HOUZZ. I've documented a lot of this here: https://www.kierstenparsons.com/blog/what-to-expect-after-you-file-a-restraining-order-part-3-documentation-safety

The list goes on. There are more incidences filed with the University where he not only went after me, he went after my husband, a part-time professor at the business school.

I hope by posting this, all of the women before me and after me (those who have written to me and those who fear speaking will cause more trouble), the ex-clients who were duped and left to wonder if they will ever get paid the thousands and thousands of dollars owed, and anyone who has ever dealt with abuse on this level will feel a bit better knowing I am not taking this lying down. And that reality does not match the facade he's created. 

This is real. This is what abuse truly looks like.