This is an article I wrote back in August of 2014 for the non-profit I founded called The Little Light Project. Thought I'd share it again, here.
The topics of school shootings and suicide are in the news a lot lately with the foiled shooting plot in Pasadena, CA and Robin Williams death. Before channeling kids who have passed on, I never thought I would have much to say on either topic. In fact, I didn't understand them the way I do now. Now, I'm not saying I have all the answers but I can share what I've learned through working as a medium passing messages from kids in spirit to families and law enforcement. Believe me, this is not a perspective I set out to have as a kid but as you may have read in my Founder's Message, it is one that literally picked me. And as heartwrenching and scary as it is, I'm very grateful for it.
For the last four years, I've primarily been visited by children and teens in spirit who have passed on due to suicide, little souls who passed due to early termination/miscarriage, and children who have passed due to crime/accident. It's rare that I am in contact with a child who passes from illness, but it does happen occasionally. I don't profess to know exactly why it is this way for me or that my viewpoint is "correct," but maybe it will help in some small way to be open about what I've experienced.
The common thread from conversation to conversation with those who have taken their own lives, I'm finding, has a lot to do with heightened sensitivity. Many of the kids tell me they were overwhelmed by how much they felt and many turned to drugs and alcohol to numb that feeling. Due to their sensitive nature, they felt different. Not normal. (On a side note, as it turns out, many highly sensitive kids are also victims of sexual abuse—their open, sensitive, trusting nature makes them targets—which can also lead to overwhelming depression and thoughts of suicide.) I am very much a believer that depression is real and can be helped via drug therapy and/or alternative medicine; however, I also feel we're missing a piece. Many of the kids in spirit I've had the honor of communicating with talk about how overwhelming it is to feel everything on such a heightened level and feel emotions of others (called being an empath). This is one of the main reasons I founded LLP—to help all these beautiful souls coming into the world today whose heightened sensitivities are through the roof. Learn tools to dial it down when they need to and to protect their energy, i.e. bubble themselves so they don't take on others energy and emotion. If we can teach these kids early on they are not weird and show them how to look at sensitivity as a gift, they have a much better shot of not becoming overwhelmed spiraling downward emotionally.
As a medium, I've come to learn (just my experience) that we are spiritual beings living in human bodies and we reincarnate to learn, grow and love. I've heard from some of the kids that took their lives, at the moment, it was one of their exits in life but not the only exit. When the soul decides it's time to exit at an exit point, and the act of suicide is put in place, then the attempt will be successful. We do have free will in our lives. The life plan for that soul may have been to stick around longer and impact everyone in their world differently but an earlier exit was taken. On the other side, they will see how that exit affects everyone but it's not as if they are punished by any means. My experience tells me there is no punishment for suicide , but it is something that I know many fear. We are experiencing human life to love ourselves and others, which is why I sometimes refer to life as Earth School. I'm not sure who coined the term, but it feels right to me.
Some kids have come in talking about the fact they knew they weren't going to live long human lives even when they were in their bodies. Some even shared these thoughts with parents and friends. And that had they not passed the way they did, that an exit would have been supplied shortly thereafter. I'm told that this is contracted before birth for many reasons like the growth and learning of others in their families and communities. In some cases, after the death of the child others lives are saved due to outreach and publicity. In some cases, parents and relatives create foundations that help the masses. This, I'm told, is part of the bigger plan.
If you believe we are all connected in this universe—that we are all one—then you can see how on a soul level (not a conscious human level), much of what we do here on earth is for the greater collective good. We are all connected energetically so we affect one another (negatively or positively since we live in a world of duality) whether we can see it or not. One child may exit by taking his or her own life, but ultimately his/her death saves ten lives. It's a ripple effect. The death of Robin Williams has put a much needed spotlight on depression, its causes, and ways to help others who are spiraling. School shootings are also putting a spotlight on mental health and just how alone and angry some of our youth feel.
We have a whole new generation of kids who are truly a few steps higher up the evolutionary stairs but on a whole, our society still tries to put everyone in the same box. One drug fits all. One way of communicating reaches everyone. We are so complex and we are evolving. Understanding that we are all affected by energy and how we can manage that, especially those who are naturally highly sensitive, will go a long way towards understanding how to help those who are dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts.
To all the beautiful families who have lost a family member to suicide, my heart bleeds for you. It's one thing to understand it on a soul level and take a birds-eye view of spiritual purpose but it's another to live through such devastating loss. I can share from my experience your loved ones are still with you in spirit, shining their light, helping guide you through life's ups and downs and they're doing what they can in energetic spirit form to help us move forward as humans towards more compassion, more love, and more connectivity.
In my opinion, we can truly help kids in pain but it will take opening our minds and hearts and honoring what it means to be highly sensitive.
The Little Light Project