I'll never forget when Lila—a psychic medium—told me years ago, "Keep writing. You'll be writing books one day." This was in 2009. I didn't even believe in psychic mediums nor did I ever think of myself as a writer. Back then, I was ramping up Mod Mom, raising a seven-year-old and an 11-year-old, and trying to keep it all in balance. It was long before I started channeling children in spirit and long before I ever thought about writing for a living. I was simply writing a blog about my life as a carpenter/furniture designer called Life In My Garage. It wasn't anything special; I was just enjoying writing about my sawdust life with kids in tow.
Nine years later, I'm working on a memoir. GET THE HELL OUT, right?!?! I KNOW! Me? A writer? Nah. Except three years ago I accepted a job as a public affairs writer for a university in town. And prior to that, I was asked to write for a furniture industry publication. OK UNIVERSE, I get it. That Lila—she was right!! Sometimes it just takes a little while for things to become clear...like almost 10 years. Holy crap, I can't believe it took this long.
Let me just say I DO believe in psychic abilities now. Hard to discount something I now live. And I write A LOT. Not only has it become a love for me (and cheap therapy), I've learned a lot about who I am as a writer. In addition, women and men reach out to me about healing from relationship abuse or sexual abuse, and I write them back. Sometimes, it's easy and I feel good about what I've shared, and other times it's hard as hell because I don't have an answer for them or a bridge over troubled waters. (Side note: Now I have that song in my head and it will be here for a day, at least.) I sometimes offer advice about intuitive children or intution in general, too. It's a mixed bag and I love every minute of it. I would never be where I am without the help, love and support from others who helped me find my footing through it all.
I've gotta say, this memoir-writing thing has been a lot of fun, so far. I know I still have memory issues, but as I'm writing I'm remembering more. Remembering detail about the sudden onset mediumship I experienced in my late 30s. I can see it all in my head like a Lifetime movie. When I share the full story with people—life from age 36 to now—they always say OMG this is movie or a book. I tell ya, I'm really starting to believe it myself.
I'm super grateful for the opportunity to tell the whole story. And I'm really thankful to all of you for riding in the passenger seat on this bizarre adventure. As my friend Kari says, "We can drive!"
And we can write. And write. And write. And heal.